Embrace The Haters


“You’re never as good as everyone tells you when you win, and you’re never as bad as they say when you lose.” – Lou Holtz

Haters, naysayers, criticizers… Embrace them all.

Sometimes when you start going for something big, that people aren’t used to seeing you do, their natural reactions are to poke fun or criticize. Some people will even try to make you doubt the worth of your pursuits. I have previously spoken about overcoming the fear of failure, but this post is more about addressing the fear of doubters. When people doubt you openly, it can easily begin to creep into your mindset and affect your outlook on the future.

When you set a goal or have a vision, do not allow naysayers to blur your vision or discourage you. There is plenty of negativity in this world, do your best to avoid it. The worst thing you can do is give up on your goals because of something someone else said. If you want something, go and get it! Never give in to doubt and fear, because there is nothing to fear when your intentions are to try your best in the pursuit of your goals and dreams. Even if you fail, you will have learned more than people who never try.

On a personal note, I have been so fortunate that most of the comments I get about this website and other endeavors have been positive. However, I have also had numerous people question the purpose even to the point of ridicule. Fortunately, I have learned from studying successful people to embrace criticism constructively and completely ignore negativity. I’ve learned the power of confidence and how to benefit from receiving criticism. I now love when people actually offer some real thought or insight into how I could make the things I’m doing better. I’ve also learned that if someone around me isn’t encouraging or constructive, it’s best to swiftly cut them off. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

Thinking back to the Platinum rule, it also helps to start treating yourself as you would like to be treated. Sometimes you will never receive enough of the right treatment from outside sources so it’s important to treat yourself like you’d want them to treat you. This means encouraging yourself, throwing out negativity from your own mind, and pouring your energy into your goals. In doing these things, you begin to build a strong supportive relationship with yourself and the importance of others’ opinions will to melt away.

“A tiger doesn’t lose sleep over the opinion of sheep” -Unknown

If you have a strong enough reason why you’re doing what you’re doing then nothing, especially the opinions of others, can shake your drive. If you know yourself and know your worth, let your actions speak louder than your words. (Shout out to Drake). Confidence is our number one asset, and we should do our best to protect it. The best way to protect it is to root your confidence from within. Nothing motivates me more than my own drive when I wake up in the morning. I know the work I put in daily and I am gracious of even the smallest victories I achieve through those efforts. When you aren’t motivated by external shit, nothing external can shake you.

Lastly, to all the past, present, and future criticizers, I thank you.

Let’s GO embrace.

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